I have a story to share.
The year was 1972. He had been in the U.S. for a few months now, flying into the country with a one-way ticket, because that is all he can afford. This had been his dream since he was young. To come to the United States of America, the land of plenty. The country which gave its military chocolate and coca-cola. The immigration rules were lax then, there was no high speed data transmissions nor were there any terrorist lists. He had a visa that allowed him in for a few months, where he stayed with a family friend and waited tables at night. He was taking english classes at the adult school in San Pedro where the teachers didn’t turn away extra heads in the classroom. Money was tight, he lived off of the small wage he earned plus tips and the owner was cheap. Him and the others were fed on the evening shift, where they worked 2 blocks from the beach.
Eventually the family friend asked him to leave and he went to look for his own place. His friend took him to look at a trailer, one that cost $75 a month but the toilet was next to the bed. He eventually found a fully furnished apartment for $125. He had to buy a car, and bought a mustang convertible that was grass green, with a hippie sticker on the back bumper that said something about saving the horses… eventually though, he had to get a permanent visa to stay in the U.S. He considered going to Vietnam, although that would have given him the first ticket out of the country rather than staying.
He consulted one of the customers where he worked, who was an accountant at a large firm in the city. He was very wealthy and was single. In the end, he could not help legally and instead recommended for what was available at that time - if the family of the immigrant could prove that they had enough finances to cover for this person as they would not be a burden on the country, then a visa can be issued. He realized he had to go back to his home country to get this necessary paperwork.
He planned a 3 week trip back home, bought a round-trip ticket. The day after he arrived, the rain was coming down hard. It was monsoon, or perhaps a little before and the rain was coming down hard but he decided to go to the bank anyway, as he only had 3 weeks. He got in the special line at the bank, the one where you go to for special requests.
That’s when he saw her.
He had never thought about marriage or long term relationships before. He had been through a few relationships, but nothing all that serious. He was only 27, and that seemed like a lifetime away. But when he saw her, he couldn’t help but to think, “would a beautiful person like that go out with me?”
There was only one way to find out. After his transaction was finished, he went back outside into the rain. He ran to the first phone booth and called the bank. He asked for her. She answered. He introduced himself. Apologized for being so forward, and for sounding crazy but he would like to take her out. He would be gone for the next week but as soon as he returned, he would like to take her to dinner. She agreed.
A week later he called her again to setup a time and a place. She came. They drank coffee and chatted. Then he took her to a special place, with steak dinners (which weren’t available in that country at the time). She barely touched her food.
Two weeks later he had to return to the U.S. He asked her to marry him.
She said yes.
The story doesn’t end there. In hindsight, she also remembers thinking “is this the man I will marry?” that day as he got into the cab. She had also never thought about marriage or long term relationships before. She had been asked out by many men from work, family friends and neighbors but had not been interested in any of them. But on that day, the day she agreed to cover someone else’s lunch shift, fate happened.
Do you believe in fate?