“a girlfriend is a full-time job”
So someone on my staff today says, “a girlfriend is a full-time job”. Not that I particularly know, considering I’ve never had a girlfriend, but I have had boyfriends and I haven’t really considered that to be a “full-time job”. Perhaps a “lifestyle”, but never anything more than that. There’s been times where I’ve liked my job more than the boyfriend, but that’s another story.
There’s that old saying about “love shouldn’t be such hard work”, and “you have to work to make a relationship work” but a wise old man recently let me in on the *real* secret: “a successful relationship is when you feel good about you when you are with the other person”. As obvious as it sounds, it was a resounding, thought provoking statement.
March 12th, 2004 at 8:41 pm
“A successful relationship is when you feel good about you when you are with the other person.”
Wow! I like that and I think that’s true! I had to leave my marriage because I didn’t like the person I was/became when I was with my ex-husband. He was a very kindhearted, hard-working guy, but I didn’t like the person I became when I was married to him. Anyways, thanks for your nice notes! I had to chuckle about the tako comment because I also remember telling someone I liked tacos and so they took me out for octopus!
March 15th, 2004 at 1:43 pm
Exactly. That’s also how I choose my friends as well. You feel good hanging around them, and they feel good hanging around you. Same with a boyfriend… He makes me feel the best when I am talking to him. And if I’m not at my best when he is talking to me, he’ll sit there and be with me until I am..
Maybe being a boyfriend is a full time job for him. :p
March 16th, 2004 at 8:05 am
I absolutely agree - the sentence can be related to almost anything that involves human interaction - for example, Customer Service in the workplace, coworker interaction, family interaction, even reading blogs! We’re probably attracted to blogs that make us feel, well, good (or at least informative) rather than bad.
I’m with you on the last one there, suki - I am probably a full-time job for my boyfriend too
March 17th, 2004 at 12:11 pm
Hey. I got to your site via RBJ. Nice site. I dunno.. I just have a thing for sites that use MT. Well I would agree that being a boyfriend/girlfriend is a full-time job. Nothing better than recovering from a bad day after your bf/gf has willingly made sure you have. I’ll be visiting often. Take care.
March 17th, 2004 at 3:05 pm
Yeah in some way it is a full time job, anything that has to do with sigificant others is hard work. Because if you love that person enought you will go through hell and high water to do what’s necessary.
Parenting, on the other hand, is a whole new world. lol
April 4th, 2004 at 1:01 am
Being a boyfriend or girlfriend should NOT be a full time job at all…if the two people are comfortable with each other and are in love…then is should just come natural. Now there may be times when some work must be done yet I would not say its a full time job.